A woman knows another woman’s body well, as though a blueprint of their own – they appreciate it, respect it, and want to please it in the ways they know please them. A study has now found that lesbian women are much more likely to orgasm during sex than either straight or bisexual women.
Researchers at the Kinsey Institute surveyed over 6,000 men and women about their sex lives, and lesbians were revealed to be rather good at coming. The survey found that straight women climax with their partner 61.6% of the time, but that shoots up to 74.7% with lesbians.
Researchers concluded that the reason for the figures is that straight couples tend to focus on intercourse – an unreliable route to orgasm, with little or no clitoral stimulation. Following are some of the key reasons that lesbians may do it better, and some handy tips for men who want to please their female partner and work towards changing the statistics one selfless act at a time.
What lesbians do well:
- Lesbians tend to enjoy talking about sex, and have strong opinions on it, which is a steady transition into the bedroom where their explicit, excellent communication continues.
- Lesbians indulge in more foreplay according to the study, and among popular lady loving techniques are kissing, breast playing and fondling.
- They realise that penetrative sex is not the be-all and end-all of sex, which can lead to a much more sensual, intimate experience.
- This patience lesbian women display leads to a comfortable, unpressured environment where sex doesn’t have a beginning, middle and end, and instead is an erotic session in which each can have as many orgasms as they like.
- Women take longer to orgasm than men do, and other women tend to display empathy for each other when it comes to this matter.
What men need to do:
Men are not mind readers, so a big step is asking her what she likes and constantly checking in that things feel good, not taking it as a negative if she asks for something else and to switch it up mid-play.
A good place to start is a mood setting, relaxing and erotic massage, followed by stimulation and when it gets too much, indulgence in full, well deserved play. By making sure that one person isn’t doing all of the work, and it doesn’t feel like a chore or pressure for either partner – both should get lots of fulfilment from sex.
In the heat of the moment a couple might be so turned on that they just want to get straight to it, yet could learn from lesbians by making every effort to build anticipation and enjoy each other’s bodies before the main event. Although man may not be able to hold out for their partner, once satisfied it might be a wise idea for him to give her his undivided attention.
Unfortunately, sexist power structures can slug their way into bedrooms, with many women feeling like a means to an end, yet if you remove that socially ingrained stereotype you are simply left with two people who are equal and want to make each other equally happy.
Whether either partner is interested in role play, bondage, sex toys, or trying every single position in the Kama Sutra, the key is to be open and communicate every desire. If a woman wants to introduce sex toys into the bedroom, men should not feel threatened by a vibrator, as it is not representative of problems with their manhood.
Men might not always think outside of the box when it comes to sex, and might have a different idea of what experimenting is – but how will they know unless they ask? He needs to appreciate it if a girl knows what she wants and feels confident and comfortable enough to let them in on those fantasies.
So we have noted that lesbian women don’t rush sex, give as good as they get, indulge in lots of foreplay and don’t feel embarrassed to ask for what they want.
Men could learn a thing or two from these techniques and will be successful if they lessen the pace, and fully open their mind.